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The Complete Guide To Sex Toys For Beginners

The Complete Guide To Sex Toys For Beginners

So you’re curious about sex toys but haven’t quite decided whether you need the 20cm dual motor 21 function rechargeable rabbit vibrator or the slightly less intimidating single speed bullet vibrator?  Well luckily for you there are literally thousands of options, all of them with one thing in mind… Your pleasure.

Paging through the countless options online can be a daunting exercise, especially if you’re not sure what you are looking for. Of course, we are of the opinion that variety is the spice of life, but we are all different and get aroused by different things, so the first thing you need to figure out is what makes you happy…


What excites you?

Take some time and be honest to yourself about what your needs are.  Think about how you masturbate and what type of stimulation feels best for you. Do you prefer clitoral, G-spot, vaginal or anal stimulation or a combination of these? Do you like direct or indirect contact? Hard or soft vibrations? Is the toy just for you or for you and your partner? Once you answer these questions you can start looking for toys.



We will always recommend getting a rechargeable toy. Most premium toys will come with an easy to use USB charger while some of them even have docking stations and boast with up to 3 hours of playtime when fully charged. That doesn’t mean there’s no place for the trusty battery operated bullet, just make sure you stock up on batteries, there’s nothing worse than running out of power mid-orgasm.



As with most things in life, you get what you pay for. We’re not saying go straight for the Lelo Ina Wave (although you don’t know what you’re missing), but if you invest in a quality toy it will last you a lifetime. With that being said, if you’re just starting out and finding your feet it might be best to treat yourself to a mid-range toy and make sure that it works for you before upgrading to the high-end stuff.



This is completely up to you. Some women like a tighter fit while others prefer a bit more manoeuvrability. If you travel a lot a smaller more discreet adult toy might be a better option than a bulky rabbit (although nothing compares to the dual stimulation of a rabbit vibrator). If you struggle to reach orgasm without G-spot stimulation you might want to do your homework. Not all G-spots are in the same place and it sucks big time if your toy falls a little bit short as you probably already know. If you’re buying a toy for insertion it’s always better to err on the smaller side though as a toy that’s too big will hurt you while a toy that’s a smidge too small can still provide hours of fun. Please keep in mind that a toy that seems too big might be the perfect fit if you apply a bit of personal lubricant. Did we mention that you should be using lube?



We take extra care to select only whisper-quiet toys for our site but as the power goes up, unfortunately so does the noise levels of vibrators. It’s always good to read a few reviews before you buy a new toy just to make sure. Luckily nowadays most quality vibrators are as quiet as can be and probably won’t wake up the neighbours unless you do.


Here are your options:

Bullet & Mini Vibrators

It is said that every person with a clitoris needs a bullet vibrator. They’re tiny, unintimidating, discreet little wonders and if you’ve never used a vibrator before they’re the perfect place to start. They are simple to use, easy to clean and because of their shape, they provide you with pinpoint accurate stimulation wherever you need it. Most women will use the tip of their bullet against their clitoris but they work just as well on any of your other erogenous zones and if you turn it horizontally it will provide intense vibrations to a much broader area. Please just keep in mind that they are not ideal for any type of internal stimulation as most of them don’t have a flared base and might get lost inside. Due to their petite size, they’re ideal for travel and if you can, get one with variable speeds, you’ll thank us later.



Dildos are fun penis-shaped toys that come in a wide range of colours, shapes, textures and materials. They generally don’t vibrate so are ideal for those who prefer a more natural penetrating feeling and work beautifully in combination with a bullet vibrator. If you’re buying your first dildo for solo play we recommend going for a smaller smooth straight shape, you can always work your way up to more exciting curved, textured, twisted dildos later. If you want to use it with a partner you should go for a double-ended or strap on dildo. Please just make sure that it is compatible with a harness before buying.


Realistic Vibrators

Realistic Vibrators (or vibrating dildos for that matter) are penis-shaped vibrators that come in a variety of shapes, sizes, colours and textures and usually have a firm shaft and head that will deliver powerful vibrations to your G-spot area. Just like dildos, they are primarily made for women who prefer internal stimulation but the added benefit of vibration makes them a lot more versatile. They can be used as a normal dildo when switched off but it’s pretty damn amazing once you get the vibrations going.   


Kegel Balls

Kegel Balls, Ben-Wa Balls, Geisha Balls, whatever you want to call them, are technically not sex toys but rather exercise equipment for your ladybits (although the Lelo Luna might claim otherwise). They are small weighted balls that you slip inside you and come in a wide variety of different weights, shapes and sizes. They have been used for centuries to help strengthen the pelvic floor and vaginal muscles and have been known to enhance sexual pleasure and orgasm intensity with regular use.



The Wand vibrator or “Magic Wand” is considered by many to be the cornerstone of any sex toy collection. Initially intended to be a body massager, it wasn’t long before overworked women realised it was good for much more than their sore backs. They deliver deep rumbling vibrations that can be felt throughout your body and quite often you don’t even need direct stimulation to reach orgasm. We recommend getting a rechargeable wand as the corded ones are cumbersome to use and battery operated wands don’t last very long due to the powerful motors. They’re great for solo play but really come to their own when you start experimenting during foreplay and lovemaking. Some of them come with a range of accessories and attachments but in our opinion, the only thing you need is that beautiful round head.


Rabbit Vibrators

Yes, we’ve saved the best for last. This is the one sex toy NO woman should be without. If you’re looking for a toy that will take care of all your pleasure zones at once, look no further than the classic rabbit vibrator. Called a Rabbit due to the rabbit-like ears (although they come in various shapes and sizes) they usually feature a firm vibrating shaft for G-spot stimulation as well as a side attachment that will simultaneously stimulate your clitoral area to treat you to those glorious blended orgasms. They are mostly made from silicone and come in any shape and size imaginable. It’s always better to look for one with dual motors that you can control individually (one in the ears and one in the shaft) to give you a bit more variation. If you’re buying your first rabbit vibrator, we recommend something like the Bunny Love Slimline Rabbit Vibrator



Hopefully, you have a better idea of what will work for you now. Remember, sex toys are all about fun. Whether you choose to take baby steps or jump in head first, there is very little to fear and a lot of fun to be had!