Choosing the best vibrator for you starts with understanding your body, what makes you tick and the reason for buying a vibrator. In this guide we will explain how the female orgasm works and outline the different types of orgasms and why they matter, address common challenges such as difficulty reaching climax and offer practical solutions, separate fact from fiction about vibrator use, detail the anatomy of the clitoris and its role in pleasure, and finally show you how to match your unique needs to the vibrator that will work best for you.

Whether you are looking for a vibrator for yourself or to use with a partner, this guide will provide you with the knowledge to choose a toy that fits your needs. Understanding what vibrator you need starts with understanding the different types of orgasms and how your G-spot and clitoris work and what works for you. 

Different Types of Orgasms (Yes it's important)

Internal Orgasm

An internal orgasm comes from stimulation of the vaginal walls, be this during intercourse or with a toy designed for internal use or using your fingers. Some women feel more pleasure & sensation deeper inside rather than directly at the clitoris. You might notice a fullness or pressure before release.

Some find this route more subtle and longer-lasting than external stimulation. This is because the clitoris is much larger and internal than you might think. It all has to do with blood flow and circulation. Your internal sensitive “spot” is known as the g-spot, which is still just your clitoris, but just internal rather than external. 

External Orgasm

An external orgasm is achieved through direct clitoral stimulation. This can be with your fingers, a vibrator, cunnilingus or other toys made for the clitoral glans. External orgasms are the most common and are achieved by stimulating the small, visible tip of the clitoris often called the “sweet spot.”

Most women find external stimulation the fastest path to orgasm, and it can be combined with internal play, penetrative sex or using a toy like a rabbit vibrator which is both internal and external, for added intensity.

G-spot & Clitoris

The G-spot lies on the upper front wall of the vagina, about 2–6 cm in from the entrance. When you feel a slightly raised, spongy area you’ve likely found it. This is directly related to the anatomy of the clitoris. When a woman is aroused blood flows into the clitoris, not dissimilar to a male erection, which makes the area easier to locate. G-spot stimulation can create a deep, full sensation leading to orgasms that most describe as distinct from a clitoral orgasm.

The clitoris itself extends far beyond the tiny glans you see. It has three main parts:

• Glans clitoris: the small, external tip most people touch directly.
  

• Crura: two “legs” that extend from the glans back into the body on either side of the vulva.
  

• Vestibular bulbs: two internal bulbs beside the vaginal opening that swell with arousal and add pressure around the clitoral complex.
  
  

Together, these structures extend approximately 7 cm inside the body, although only 4–7 mm protrude at the surface. Understanding this anatomy can help you choose toys and positions that target both external and internal parts of the clitoris for richer pleasure. At the very least, this will help you when you explore your body, if you haven’t done so already, or if you need a reason to check again, now you have one.

Considerations When Choosing a Vibrator

Before you start looking at which vibrator to buy, ask yourself these questions

1. Will I use this toy mostly on my own or with a partner?
   
2. Do I prefer internal, external or both types of stimulation?
   
3. How important are size and shape for comfort and discretion?
   
4. Will I need a very quiet toy or do I mind a bit of extra vibration?
   
5. Do I want to use it in the bath or shower?
   
6. Should it be travel-friendly and easy to lock or stow?
   
7. Would I rather swap batteries or plug in to recharge?
   
   

 

"Choosing a good vibrator is more about 
understanding your body 
than anything else."

 

Answering these questions is a great starting point to guide you toward a vibrator that fits your needs and preferences. Below are the main factors to consider when choosing a vibrator. 

Intended Use: Solo or Partner Play 𖠋♡𖠋

If you plan to explore on your own, look for precise controls and variable patterns. You can also go larger if this is your preference as it won’t bruise any egos if your better half happens to be male.

If you are going to share it, choose a shape that is easy to hand off and simple to operate without a manual. Easy controls and something that doesn’t get in the way during sex. 

Type of Stimulation: Internal, External or Both 🍆🍑😩👉👌💦

Some vibrators, like a bullet vibrator or wand massager are designed purely for clitoral use, others for G-spot and vaginal stimulation, while dual-action toys such as Rabbit Vibrators combine both. Choose based on whether you crave pinpoint stimulation, deep rumbles for clitoral stimulation or a blend of both.

Size and Shape 🍌🍆

A longer, curved shaft can target the G-spot more easily. Slim bullets or compact models slip into handbags and feel less intimidating. If you are unsure, start smaller; you can always graduate to a fuller size later. Bullets remain an excellent first choice if you’re testing the waters. You can read our comprehensive Sex Toy Size Guide for more information on making a buying decision based on the size of a toy. 

Noise Level  🎶

Rechargeable toys tend to be quieter than battery-powered ones; silicone bodies absorb sound better than hard plastic or metal. If discretion matters, look for silicone rechargeable toys.  

Waterproof or Water-Resistant  💦

Fully waterproof vibrators can be submerged in water and are easier to clean. Water-resistant models work in the shower but can’t be dunked in the bath. Always check the manufacturer’s rating before taking your toy near water. Or look at the Key Features section for product information. 

Travel-Friendly Features ✈️

Many toys include a lock to prevent accidental activation so your check-in bag won’t start vibrating while you’re checking in. Compact shapes and silent motors make for stress-free packing.

Power Source: Batteries or Rechargeable 🔋⚡

Battery-operated toys let you swap in fresh batteries when they run out but batteries can rattle and tend to sound louder. They are not the same quality as rechargeable toys, in most cases. But they do tend to vibrate a bit harder.

Rechargeable models cost more up front yet deliver stronger, quieter vibrations and save on battery costs over time. We would recommend a rechargeable vibrator in 99% of the cases. 

Material and Safety ♻️

High-grade silicone is body-safe, non-porous and gentle on delicate skin; ABS plastic can be firm and effective yet feels colder at first. Avoid toys with phthalates or soft jelly coatings; these materials can harbour bacteria and cause irritation. Ensure you buy from a reputable supplier. 

Settings and Controls 🎚️

Look for multiple speeds and patterns so you can experiment. Simple button layouts or wireless remotes keep things intuitive when the mood strikes. Extra features such as memory settings or independent motors add versatility but are not essential.

Reflecting on each of these points will help you narrow the field quickly and find a vibrator that feels made for you. Next we will explore specific toy types and top picks for every preference.

Types of Vibrators and Suggested Products