She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

An essential (and overdue) guide for anyone who wants to better understand female pleasure — and actually prioritise it.

Written by sex therapist Ian Kerner, this modern classic flips the script on traditional sex advice by putting women's satisfaction front and centre. She Comes First is packed with practical, step-by-step guidance on how to navigate female anatomy with confidence, curiosity, and care — making it required reading for any man who wants to move past confusion and become a truly attentive partner.

Kerner argues that oral sex is not foreplay — it’s coreplay, and his writing blends humour, anatomy, and hands-on technique into a refreshing, no-nonsense guide to giving pleasure well.

This is not just a book for men — it’s a book for couples who want their intimate connection to be better, fairer, and more satisfying.

Why we love it:

• Clear, straightforward language (no fluff, no awkward metaphors)
  
• Science-backed, therapist-informed advice
  
• Makes the clitoris less mysterious, and more central
  
• Ideal for partners who want to unlearn bad habits and build better ones

A cult favourite for a reason — and a great gift for your partner (or yourself).